Are you hindering the Law of Attraction?

Ten Ways We Hinder the Law of Attraction
by Wendy Betterini


"Why isn't the Law of Attraction working for me?" This cry of
frustration is uttered often by people who are learning to
consciously create better lives using the Law of Attraction. After
spending weeks trying to raise their vibration, focus their minds
and bring forth a better reality, they can't understand why they're
not seeing results. Or sometimes they'll see small results which
gives them incentive to keep going, but they still don't see
improvement where it REALLY counts.

Does this describe you? Have you raised your eyes to the heavens
and demanded to know why the Law of Attraction isn't working for
you? Or perhaps you've resigned yourself to one of these deadly
beliefs:

"It seems to work for other people, but I just can't get it right."
"I must be doomed to failure."
"I knew it wouldn't work, but at least I tried."
"I'm such an idiot; why do I keep getting sucked into these
ridiculous schemes?"
"God must really hate me."

Well, wipe those destructive thoughts right out of your mind!

Seriously, they won't serve you a bit, though I can understand why
you're tempted to believe them - I've been there too!

Here's the good news: the Law of Attraction IS working for you. It
works all the time, every time, without exception. If you're not
seeing the results you want, the time has come to ask yourself what
you're putting out there that is attracting similar energy back
into your life.

Before you get angry at me for telling you you're "doing it wrong,"
please understand that you're probably NOT doing it wrong - but
there may be one or two things you're doing that are creating
resistance, which slows down your results.

Skim down this list of the most common ways we hinder the Law of
Attraction from delivering what we want, and compare them carefully
with your own habitual thoughts and feelings:

INDECISION
Do you have a clear vision of exactly what you want? Perhaps you
aren't picky, you just want things to be "better" than they are
now, whatever that ends up looking like. However, the Universe
doesn't want you to settle for "something good," but instead
attract EXACTLY what you desire!

What do you desire? Take some time to think about the facets of
your life. Think about your job, financial status, relationships,
health, body size, vehicle, residence, and more. Are all of these
things an accurate reflection of what you would create if you could
start over? Make a detailed list of EXACTLY what you want to create
for yourself. Write down every tiny aspect you can think of. Then
read this list frequently to keep your vision sharp and clear in
your mind.

UNWORTHINESS
Do you REALLY believe you deserve the things on your list? What
makes you so special that you deserve abundant health, wealth and
happiness? That's not a rhetorical question. I'm really asking,
what makes you so special? Don't have an answer? How about this:
you exist. Someone breathed you into existence and infused you with
all these desires, and for what? Why would your desires exist if
you weren't meant to experience them?

Until you can understand just how special and unique you truly are,
you might resist the abundance and joy the Universe is offering
you. Perhaps you feel guilty that others are struggling, so you
keep yourself at a lower level so you don't make them feel bad.
However, holding yourself back doesn't serve them, or you. Embrace
your true worth as a human being and let it be a shining example
for all to see. Empower others (and yourself) with the knowledge
that they too can create better lives.

DISTRUST
Some of us have a skewed view of the Universe (or God, if that term
resonates with you). From an early age, we're taught that we have
to comply with certain guidelines and behavioral rules - or else.
We see the Universe as some angry force that will deliver a wrath
of misery upon us if we do something wrong. It's no surprise that
most of us end up feeling like we're walking on eggshells. We
actually EXPECT bad things to happen because we've developed such a
negative view of the powers that be. We're afraid to ask for what
we really want because we might be viewed as greedy, ungrateful or
selfish. We're afraid to hope for something better because we might
get a lightning bolt up the wazoo.

How about turning this belief around? We can just as easily believe
in a loving Universe, one that wants us to do well, be happy, and
feel abundant. Rather than approaching the Universe with the
mind-set of a scolded child, why not step forward confidently and
joyfully and claim ownership of what is already yours? Believe me,
the Universe will applaud you for doing so, and reward you beyond
your wildest dreams.

DOUBT
Even if you WANT to believe that the Law of Attraction really
works, you might be holding back somewhat to protect yourself from
disappointment. If you don't give it your "all," you think it won't
hurt so badly when it doesn't work out. However, doubt is like a
big old rubber doorstop that prevents the gateway of prosperity
from opening. You affirm, you visualize, you get clear, and the
gate begins to swing inward, creating a crack through which
shimmering golden light shines forth. You begin to step forward
into your glorious new reality, when "bump!," -- oops, never mind,
there's a doorstop there and the gap isn't big enough to let you
through. Oh well, better luck next time.

Think of FAITH as the oil that keeps the hinges on the gates of
prosperity operating smoothly. If you keep the hinges lubricated
and the gates free of any obstructions (doubts) - they will swing
right open and you'll be dazzled by what you see on the other side.

DISBELIEF
No matter how badly you want something, if you don't believe it's
possible, you will resist it. Perhaps you've set some lofty goals
for yourself, things that almost seem too good to be true. Perhaps
you want to be a millionaire, but you're currently earning $15,000
per year. Or you want to meet your soulmate, but you long ago
convinced yourself that he or she doesn't exist. Turning these
negative beliefs around is CRUCIAL to attracting your desires!
For every limiting belief you hold, I want you to take a blank
sheet of paper and come up with ten reasons why your desires are
POSSIBLE. It's important to make the reasons believable and
logical. For example, "It's possible for me to become a millionaire
because other people have done it, and some of them started with
less than what I have now!" Or, "It's possible that my soulmate
exists because I simply haven't met every person on the planet yet.
He or she might be searching for me even as I search for him/her!"
Keep repeating these reasons to yourself, until you are absolutely
CONVINCED that your desires are indeed possible. It may take time,
and it will certainly take lots of repetition, but the stronger
your belief is, the more likely you are to attract the end result
you desire.

DUALITY
Do your day-to-day thoughts, feelings, and actions paint a very
different picture than the affirmations and visualizations you
project? Are you affirming your financial prosperity while at the
same time worrying about your bills? Both realities CANNOT co-exist
in your life. Either you're prosperous, or you're not. Either
you're successful, or you're not. Either you're healthy, or you're
besieged by aches and pains.

At every possible moment, you need to let go of your old reality -
even if it means pretending that the symptoms of lack, struggle,
and illness do not exist. At the very beginning, it will be a
challenge to do this fully, but if you keep at it day after day,
repeatedly turning your attention to thoughts of wellness,
abundance, and joy, and focusing less on lack, struggle, and
illness, you begin to shift your reality to what you focus on the
most.

FEAR
Perhaps you're claiming to want something better, but you also fear
it on a deeper level. If you want to be a best-selling author but
you fear publicity and fame, guess what happens? You resist the
formation of such a reality in your life because it makes you
uncomfortable. If you want to be financially abundant but you worry
about what others would think of you, resistance is woven
throughout your desire for more money. In effect, you're asking for
something but also pushing it away at the same time.

One good way to overcome these fears is by facing them on paper.
Ask yourself how you would handle people who thought poorly of you
for being wealthy. "I'd tell them to mind their own business,"
might be one response, or "Their opinions of me don't affect my
life one way or the other" would work nicely also. If you get clear
about your fears, you'll realize that most of them are irrational
or irrelevant. Even the ones that hold merit, however, can be
worked through and your resistance will dissolve in the light of
clarity and purpose.

FORCE
You watched the movie, "The Secret," or read a great book about the
Law of Attraction, and now you're all fired up! You're SO
DETERMINED to change your life that you proceed full steam ahead.
You begin religiously reciting affirmations and performing
meditations and visualizations and feeling good at every possible
opportunity. After a week or two nothing has happened, so you
increase the intensity of your efforts. You start meditating not
just for 15 minutes a day, but for two hours a day. Your
affirmations become a litany of desperation to make something
happen. Still no results, so you work harder, and harder, and
HARDER at it - until finally you scream in frustration, utterly
exhausted from trying so hard.

Lighten up! I know, that's easier said than done when you're not
happy with your current reality. But seriously, the harder you
"try," the worse it's going to get. Back off, relax, and just let
it happen when it's going to happen. The more relaxed and joyful
you can be about the process, the more quickly your desires will
come forth. Read more about the process of "allowing," and learn
how to BE what you're trying to attract. It's a much simpler way to
activate the Law of Attraction, and everything will just FLOW
smoothly and easily. No force required. Really.

FRUSTRATION
Speaking of frustration - it's yet another way we hinder the Law of
Attraction. When we feel frustrated, we emit an unmistakable signal
to the Universe that acts as a beacon to attract more situations to
be frustrated about!

Remember the importance of FEELING GOOD! Why is it so important?
Because of the signal it puts out to the Universe. The more you
feel good, the more you attract situations and experiences that
will help you to feel good. I know it's challenging to feel good
when things aren't going the way you want, but it's so important to
do so anyway! I don't care if you have to slink off to a private
place to be alone with your thoughts, or sit in a movie theater to
watch a comedy, or go window shopping on your lunch hour. FIND
things that make you feel good, and do them as often as possible.
It is so, so, SO important! If you have a few moments of
frustration here and there, don't sweat it too much, just do what
you can to have MORE moments of feeling good than you do of feeling
frustration. It will make an incredible difference.

And finally, the Number One way we hinder the Law of Attraction:

IMPATIENCE
Most of the people I hear uttering the weary cry above (Why isn't
the Law of Attraction working for me?) haven't been working at it
for long. Perhaps a few weeks, maybe even a few months. Believe me,
I know the feeling of desperation to get things moving in a more
positive direction, but it takes time!

Remember that we're constantly experiencing a RESIDUAL effect of
our PAST thoughts, feelings and beliefs. It's unrealistic (though
understandable) to want to change it all overnight. But it's not
going to happen that quickly most of the time.

Sure, you might see small improvements here and there, which can
make you feel like you're making progress. That's a good thing!
Just don't despair if you seem to be moving in slow motion through
unpleasant circumstances. You're not crazy, you're not doomed to
failure, and you're not a complete idiot. The transition you're
going through is completely normal.

Simply do what you can to stay positive and keep up with the
activities that will attract something better in the future. Be
gentle with yourself, and know that this too shall pass. And in the
very near future, when you really begin to see this force shifting
the circumstances of your reality before your eyes, WOW - you'll be
so glad you stuck with it through the tough spots!

The journey is worth it in the end, believe that.

About the Author:
Wendy Betterini is a freelance writer specializing in
self-improvement and personal development concepts. Visit her
website, http://www.WingsForTheHeart.com for free articles on
positive thinking, goal-setting, self-esteem, personal growth, and
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